“It’s going to cost a (LDS) person an awful lot to be (out). . . because
once they’re (out), they don’t know who they’re going to be on the other side
and they don’t know what they’re going to end up losing cause chances are they
probably will lose something. It may not be what they think they’re going to
lose, but chances are they’re probably going to lose something because their
life up to this point has been based on (a false belief system) and they didn’t
realize that and didn’t understand that. Their entire environment they live in
has been made out of unhealthy decisions (a false belief system) and once you
get healthy, some of those individuals in that environment may not like you
anymore, or may not like the fact that you’re now part of their world and now
you’re stuck with each other. Because once a healthy person comes into contact
with an unhealthy person the healthy person becomes a mirror and they have to
make a decision. And, that may not be the time they want to make those
decisions. If they even want to make
that decision period. Plus I’m now
having to learn healthy tools, and I’m probably at an age where that’s
embarrassing. . . reality is messy, reality is hard. . . " Teresa Liebscher from Sozo Advanced Training Series
I was listening to a training tape by Teresa Liebscher and
came across the following quote (with some additions and changes in brackets).
The original quote was talking about people with severe mental illness, but as
I listened I thought about how this quote really does fit in the LDS context. On
Facebook, I’m following several groups and individuals who have been witnessing
to LDS folks in Utah. The outreach they were part of was a fun one, and there’s
quite a bit of jubilation and exhilaration over a “job well done.”
Teresa’s quote though reminds me that there’s a very real
cost in the work we’re doing (witnessing to LDS folks), that for them, this
change we’re asking them to make is hard, really hard. We tend to think of the
Gospel as something that is going to instantly make someone happy, healthy and
whole, but at least in the beginning the Gospel comes in like an unwelcome
intruder. It comes in by tearing down barriers. It comes in breaking down walls.
It comes in ripping, gouging, even slashing away false, and yet familiar belief
systems.
Most of all it is painful: tearing, ripping, gouging pain. Speaking as a former Mormon,the two-edged sword of God’s Word cuts, and tears, and rips away parts of us
that we like: parts we’re fond of, parts that are familiar to us. It challenges
our suppositions. It makes us think. It makes us wonder about beliefs we hold
so dear to us that we’d die for them. In fact, we have already invested much
into them: we’ve sent our children on missions, we’ve gone on missions, we’ve
invested our money, our time, our talents into this church you’re now
challenging. We’ve invested our pride, our reputation, our sense of integrity
into its claim to truth. We’ve studied, we’ve learned, we’ve worked so very
hard, all for a system that is being ripped away from us, one precious truth at
a time.
You’re asking us to turn our back on the incredible
sacrifice of our ancestors: they gave up literally everything they had for the
LDS church. You’re asking us to tell our friends we’ve been wrong, even worse
to tell our friends they are wrong. You’re asking us to step out of our comfort
zone and step into something that’s not only is uncomfortable, but in our minds,
downright wrong. You’re asking us to turn our back on something we’ve held
precious our entire lives. . . to take a chance on eternal damnation even.
All that to say, that this trust given to us who know the
biblical Jesus, and His way, is a precious trust. . . a solemn trust, something
that is holy even. We are given the precious trust of sharing with someone the
most amazing thing in the universe, and yet we’re also given the trust of
caring for them and realizing the terrible cost to them in reaching out to that
trust. It’s worth it—oh so worth it, but it is not easy, and it is not
something to be taken lightly. It’s something to be approached with fear and
trembling, it’s something to be approached with respect, love, and compassion,
and lots and lots of prayer.